I found out that my 13 year old daughter liked a boy at school. The following week we had this discussion:
“How was school?”
“Good.” <Pause> “I don’t like ‘someone’ anymore. I told my friend to tell him I don’t like him any more.”
“Why don’t you tell him?”
“That’s just not the way you do it. I can’t tell him.”
“I thought you liked him?”
“I do.”
[Parental pause of confusion]
“Umm…then why are you having your friend tell him you don’t like him?”
“So he will think I don’t like him.”
“But you do like him?”
“Yes.”
[At this point I’m beginning to feel like I’m in Abbott and Costello’s “Who’s on First?” skit]
“But why tell him you don’t like him if you ‘do’ like him?”
“Dad, you just don’t understand teenagers.” And with that she walked off.
I started pondering her situation. Not so much that she still liked a boy, but the fact that she wouldn’t talk to him in person. It made me start thinking about our relationship with God.
The courtship process for most industrialized cultures is intended to offer the exchange of personal information between a man and a woman. After analyzing the behavior and information gathered, the two individuals may decide to pursue a deeper relationship. Through active communication, they may discover they have found a suitable life partner, and if so, marriage is the inevitable outcome. However, this process is often short-circuited in many relationships because the two acquaintances decide to fore-go the getting to know you stage and jump to the sexual stage (the marriage stage without being married) of the relationship. In my counseling practice, I have worked with numerous couples that, after many years of marriage, struggle with their spouse because they skipped an integral part of their relationship.
Many Christians suffer the same consequences as those pursuing a dating relationship. When we become Christians many of us short-circuit our romance with God. We won’t wait and listen. It’s easier to ignore the discipline and meat of Christianity and run to church to eat our dessert. We want to hear from God, but we would rather hear from Him through other people. Our pastor, church leaders, friends, or maybe a donkey?
There are almost one hundred instances of God’s voice speaking to man throughout scripture. If God didn’t want to speak to us, we would all be puppets on a string with no will or desire for God.
It seems it is easier for us to listen to other people tell us about God and what He is like rather than find out for ourselves. What others tell us about God may not always be the truth. So, why don’t we find out for ourselves? Develop a relationship with God.
Stop. Listen. Hear.
(excerpts taken from Lifestyle Worship: The Worship God Intended Then and Now)
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